Day 5: Take a Compliment
DAY 5: TAKE A COMPLIMENT GRACIOUSLY
When you feel like your body is to blame, accepting praise feels awkward. As women, we’re quick to diminish our worth and value, which becomes expressed often in our inability to receive and appreciate the kind words of others. We get a compliment and then quickly put ourselves down.
To make sure you’re in the compliment-receiving mode (because I know you just went “Compliment? I never get those!”), start your day by saying this to yourself (or into your mirror): “I’m so ready to listen for and hear kind, positive, and loving things people see in me.”
Today, when someone compliments you on either your appearance, intelligence, personality, skill -anything at all--
YOU WILL GRACIOUSLY SAY, “THANK YOU, I APPRECIATE THAT.”
Then stop talking! Smile! Resist the urge to follow-up with another compliment (deflecting) or to downplay what they said. Why this way? Because taking a compliment openly is a form of intimacy and acceptance that, when practiced, cultivates vulnerability and closeness.
This activity can be done online too, but offline is preferred if that is possible.
It may feel uncomfortable at first, and that is OK. Be aware of what types of thoughts and emotions flare up post-compliment. When you share your experience with the group, be ready to explain: What was the situation, the compliment/exchange? How did it make you feel? What was it like to accept it without putting yourself down?
To give you some added context on how to respond to unwelcome comments on your body, I wrote an article about how to react to 3 different types of people.
When you accept someone's kind words, you’re acknowledging their observation that something about you is excellent. It’s an act of love to accept a compliment with grace—not an act of embarrassment or in error.