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More To Love teaches plus size women how to learn body-acceptance and end dieting for good. 

Don't break free from emotional-eating

Rachel Estapa

"If the problem isn't hunger, then food isn't the solution."

I saw this quote yesterday and found it profound. Like virtually everyone, food often becomes the go-to to deal with emotions that, while we're feeling them, don't know what to do with them. 

Hunger also gets blamed a lot for being the explicit reason why we're not happy with our bodies - a strained relationship with food. 

If you could just figure THAT out...then all your problems are fixed? 

There was a time in my life where I was not able to separate an anxious knot in my stomach from true hunger and I'd eat myself until the feeling was gone. It made me feel sad, unresolved and distant from myself. 

How did I figure it out? I learned to pay attention to my thoughts and their impact on my body. It's instant for me now and I'm a master at asking the questions to get to the core of what I'm really experiencing. It's a practice I will continue to master for the rest of my life. 

I don't think freedom from emotional eating ought to be a goal. To eat IS an emotional experience. I think it's unhelpful to put stress on yourself to rid your life of something that is a source of pleasure too. 

But I do think a more reasonable goal is living with and beside the emotional-hunger relationship. To see them as not in constant battle, but of a partnership. 

Because hunger comes in a few forms - physical, emotional, spiritual - and to attempt to void yourself of one means you're voiding the necessary process of choosing wholly which hunger needs to be addressed