A common problem I hear a lot from many (ok, women mostly) is they find it really hard to justify spending time on themselves.
I used to feel very guilty if I chose to do something that was totally for my own self-care. I'd get a flood of the usual "but that's money I should spend on X" or "I just don't have the time.." or worse "I'm not allowed to just do nothing, I should be more productive!"
It's a real drain on self-love to think that you're not deserving of personal space. When you don't give yourself the extra TLC, you feel stressed, tired, cranky and resentful of other commitments and obligations.
Sound like you? Yup, thought so! So what's the solution? Create non-negotiable ME time!
I know, I know, I can hear you now "yeah right, Rachel!" But listen...I do these two things every week and it's been revolutionary - and I'm someone with a pretty hectic schedule!
- Usually Sunday, I block at least two hours during the week that is 100% "me time" and in that free time, I get to do whatever I want, no guilt. Sometimes it's a mani/pedi, private yoga with myself and lately, it's just lying in my bed listening to music. This space helps me unwind and re-connect with myself - it's essential!
- THIS is the most important step! I TELL those around me that I've time held just for ME - including my husband, friends, family, and yes, even my day-job employer!
And you know what? Not once has anyone said "Ummm no, I don't think so."
To help you make #2 easier, here is a script I literally used today when someone asked to make plans that conflicted with my already set "me time"
"Oh, that sounds awesome! I'd totally be down but I already have some personal things planned at that time. But let me get my calendar out now and look at other times, that way, we'll set it and I love looking forward to things!"
So I still keep my personal commitment to attend a yoga class tomorrow night AND I've now got plans made for next weekend :D
I'd LOVE for you to do #1 (nudge, take an MTLYoga class if you're in the Boston area!) and share in the comments what you're going to do with your special time.